I'm a total idiot, i was trying to figure out how to blog for like 10 minutes on a friends computer.
I have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for almost three years. But this is no lovey dovey relationship. They've had a lot of problems in the past which i won't describe or anything but let's just say she's had bruises. They've broke up so any times that i've just stopped counting. Now, she says she loves him and all but she wants to date other people. She doesn't say this to him, but to us (her friends.) So she listens to herself & she goes out to hangout with other guys she met somewhere. I'm not one to judge, but I do find it wrong how she always says "Oh i love him but i don't want to be with him. We always fight & i'm tired" but the next week she says things like "Oh i don't know what i was saying before, i was only kidding. He's the love of my life & he makes me happy. I can't break up with him." And she's one of those girls who makes up excuses like "But his birthday is right around the corner" when in reality his birthday is 4 months away. Or she says "But prom is coming up and we have a dog to pay for" I understand the dog sitaution, but if were a really nice guy he would finish the payments whether or not he was with her considering how he wanted the dog & promised he would pay for her. However, Prom i do not understand. She wants himto pay for everything because she feels bad asking her dad for the money (Yeah yeah i understand but they're not in a bad money situation.) And she feels as if she can't find another date, when in reality there are a couple of guys who want to go with her. My friends and I have been encouraging her to break-up with him. He his the definition of whitetrash. He's a horrible person. I'll give him credit for those couple of days a year that he's a nice guy but other than that, he doesn't deserve any credit. He is overly jealous. When she broke up with him once he left her awful, threatening, ugly, disgusting voicemails. It's kind of like a "If i can't haveyou than no one can" type of situation. Basically, everyone wants her to break-up with him, even her parents. They used to like him until he beat her, well not necessarily beat but he did choke her while she was on the ground and i think he punched her arm pretty hard during a fight on the street (she says it was her fault). I've tried multiple times to break it to her that their relationship is going to the shits & they should jsut end it now, but she doesn't want to take it like a woman. How can i break it to her lighlty without sounding so rude & mean? Also, do you know anyone who is or was in the same situation as her? Ahhh I'm so tired of typing.
Comments (2)
I'm sorry to hear that your friend is going through that. I don't think that it matters how nicely you can say it, she can find anything you say to be mean and rude. Just do something. Because you can save a life but lose a friend or lose a friend and lose a life because at this rate what's to stop him down the road to beat her till she's close to dead and leave her to die? Sounds harsh and mean, but just talk to her.
Its okay i know how you feel because im kinda in that problem also but when i tryed to speake my voice ( we got in this huge fight she had to go back to are home school) so rely we are not friends but rely you need to talk to her bc what if you get a phone call at like 2 in the morning saying shes in the hospital your going to balme yourself saying i could have stoped it rely you cant stop any thing i have a friend that her friend got killed bc of her boyfriend. you just dont know what will happen so if you are wanting to be a good friend just talk 2 her like the other girl said in her comment i would rather save my friend and loose her as a friend then not do anything and see her get killed.
hope everything goes okay.